To properly parent, it is important to know what motivates children. If you can figure out a child's goal, then you can figure out how to best help them. If you can identify the goals of a child you can plan your corrective action much more intelligently
1. Attention - Children want attention be it negative or positive. Negative attention is better than no attention.
2. Power - Children can openly rebel or be quietly stubborn
3. Revenge - lying, stealing, or hurting others
4. Inadequacy - This passive child relays the message, "Don't expect anything from me because I don't have anything to give."
CORRECTIVE ACTION - Four steps can help you to be proactive in your parenting. These four steps can be remembered easily with the acronym CARE.
C - Catch yourself - don't yell, talk too much or preach. Make action, not
words, the principal means of conveying intentions.
A - Assess the child's goals - What goals are being served by the behavior?
R - Respond with consequences and encouragement - Consequences
need to be logical and natural.
E - Execute with consistency, friendliness, and respect - Remember
that rules without relationship leads to rebellion.